Wednesday, April 13, 2011

710


This afternoon two things happened very close together that led me down this thought path.

The first was that I caught sight of a photograph on our screen saver of Leila, around 2 years old, in swimming classes just before we gave them up. The second was that Leila called to me from the kitchen to show me that she'd spelled out her name on the fridge. Those two things together made me realise just how far this little girl has come, all on her own.

On the swimming, it's a long story, but we had a issues with the teacher and the class format so we decided to stop. It was all too hard. We haven't done formal lessons since then, over 2 years now, but Leila has doggedly taught herself to swim. Now don't get me wrong, she can't swim laps, but she has taught herself how to float, how to doggy paddle, how to dive underwater, all the classic things. I've had little to do with that at all aside from presenting her with time to play in water. You can't force learning on this little one.

The spelling is easier, she's no different to most children, she loves to learn and if you make it into a "school house game" she's up for anything. They also feel such pride in being able to write their own name, then yours and their siblings.

So, this train of thought made me realise anew that I wish I'd thought more or realised sooner that it's fine just to let your children find their own way, in their own time. I don't think I've ever really pushed my kids into anything, but I've been guilty of having expectations of them achieving certain things at certain times. From the time our babies are born we're measuring them in every way imaginable against every other baby. Isn't that a little strange? It implies, at least in some way, that we're measuring their normality in a way and my gosh, do you know anyone who is truly normal?

My girls are delightful, funny, intelligent, beautiful and most of all happy. I will try never again to be guilty of pushing forwards if they just want to stand still for a while longer and, think about it, whatever it may be.

6 comments:

Kristi said...

i do this too, especially with quinn. i am working on it right along with you.

Miss Muggins said...

What a great "light bulb" moment. Even though you haven't said (or written) it, you have been thinking it and living it all this time. Saying it just puts it out there and affirms what a great job you are actually doing -insert pat on back at this point! No learning happens all on it's own, it is a collaborative, timely process, an individual journey to be celebrated along the way.

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Sandy said...

good for you, momma! children are full of delightful surprises.

Sarah said...

such a good post. Absolutely totally agree with you. All children learn things in different order and stages. When one child refines the art of climbing and etc another is working on building blocks. We all get there just in our own time. When we do let them do this is means so much more and I think long term makes them thinkers which we all want them to be. Making their own choices with what information they have...

LJ said...

you know - I think I really needed to read this post today. Thank you.