Monday, June 06, 2011

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I stayed close to my little family this weekend. It was more important than ever that I held them close to me. Cliches are, unfortunately, often true. When you face the possibility of losing someone that you love you realise all the things you should have said, the things you should have done, how you should have shown you cared. We found out on Friday that one of my brothers has cancer. I've thought a lot in these few days about my life with him, my other brothers and my parents and then my own small family. The things you take for granted, the issues you think are huge day to day which are really nothing at all. I complain quite a bit, even if most of it is just to myself, where really I have so much to be happy about and the things that bother me, I just need to pull my finger out and get on with it. I feel a little shamed that I am so self indulgent, that it takes something like this to make me acknowledge it. This isn't about me though, it's about him, about our whole family. It's about making the most of your life, of living it, for there is only one and you need to make every day count.

10 comments:

leslie said...

i can relate to so, so much about this post - except the sibling with cancer part, fortunately. i hope your brother is going to be okay and that your girls are giving you extra hugs.

Pina said...

I am sorry to hear the bad news, I hope your brother will get better. And I agree with every word you wrote about our lives in this post; I just wish such and similar events wouldn't have to remind us how precious life really is.

Sarah said...

Oh Vic Vic Vic - listen - you are NOT SELF indulgent. You I KNOW are trying to lie eac day to the full - the fact that you do think about it and strive for it says it all!

YOU ARE HUMAN like all of us and we are all allowed to self pity at times. BUT yes something like this does change the perspective a bit.

Oh I hope your brothers journey is as dignified and pain free as possible. I hope he beats this.

Jo said...

with cancer there is always hope... i know that I will think of you and your brother often and hope that he wins this battle. I truly empathise with you and your family, it's such a hard thing. Jo x

Christie said...

perspective is a funny thing...

wishing your family the best at this tough time

x

Sandy said...

I am so sorry to hear about the cancer. It is a very scary thought as I have lost many family members to cancer, including my father. However, cancer is beatable. My cousin is cancer-free after a long hard journey. Hold each other close and treasure each other.

two little buttons said...

my thoughts and best wishes for your family at this time. your words are so true.it does take a jolt like this to put verything into perspective. ... i thinkl you are far from self indulent, a mum, wife and person trying to fit in all that you want and can do and more.
stay positive, keep your family close.

Soo said...

stay positive, thinking of you and your brother and hoping he is safe and well.

manda said...

oh i hope your brother finds wellness again x x dont be hard on yourself. we are all silly humans! x x x

Carolyn said...

I hope your brother is going to be okay. I am sorry to hear the bad news.

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